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I tend to meet most of my new friends & dating interests through existing friends.
I'm generally not all that good at going outside my social circle, and I tend to want to talk to guys (& sometimes maybe gals) who at least have a casual connection to people I know.
It may surprise some people when I say that I don't easily trust strangers or feel that I can relate to them, and that's probably one big reason why I tend not to want to meet new guys in bars or on dating sites.
It's recently been brought to my attention that some people I know may have issues with this. I don't know the specific complaints, or people, because only one of them has actually said something directly to me. Maybe there's this feeling of "why can't Dan find his own guys, and leave my friends alone". I don't know.
Anyway, I guess what I'd like to know (dear reader) is whether you think my behaviour is unacceptable. Maybe if you think it's an issue you can quietly tell me sometime.
Please don't be too suspicious of me. I'm not out to steal your date or co-opt your friend into my social group. If you want me to back off, just say so. I'm a pretty agreeable guy.
Ta.
Update:
OK, I have done a couple of fucked-up things in the past. I'll be better, I promise!
2007-09-09 03:50 am (UTC)
And if those people then gravitate towards you, then that's just a reflection of the fact you're a likeable guy. It's not like you FORCE them to date you or be friends with you!
Historically, meeting through social circles is the way things have been done anyway - the Internet and meeting at clubs is a relatively new phenomenon...
*shrug* my 2c.
2007-09-09 04:26 am (UTC)
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2007-09-11 09:31 am (UTC)
2007-09-09 07:32 am (UTC)
Occasionally I attempt to widen my circle of friends by chatting to guys online, but there is always a greater risk that they are weird or that they are jerks. Sometimes, I am successful and introduce new people to my circle of friends
:-)
2007-09-09 08:20 am (UTC)
2007-09-09 08:35 am (UTC)
But in all seriousness, no problem at all. :)
2007-09-09 08:50 am (UTC)
but yes i'll make sure i steal all your worthwhile friends
2007-09-09 12:44 pm (UTC)
i personally tend to prefer meeting friends of friends. i'm not good at meeting completely new people.
2007-09-09 01:01 pm (UTC)
2007-09-11 10:22 am (UTC)
2007-09-12 01:11 pm (UTC)
Dan and his bois
2007-09-16 03:45 am (UTC)
Personally, I'm the opposite to you. I prefer to meet strangers and hit it off that way, and find it very uncomfortable to go out with friends of friends.
I dont like gossip I suppose, and prefer to get to know my guy before sharing him with my friends.
Besides... its mutual attraction in your case. SO its not all you. You're too cute to have rules bound to you.
2007-09-18 04:55 am (UTC)
I know I've specifically introduced you to some of my friends because I thought the two of you would click... at least, I think I have, although I can't think of any of them right now
[1] Classic case: pride and prejudice. Elizabeth first sees Mr Darcy out riding, then has to trawl her social network to find a link to Mr Darcy so that she can be introduced - it would be heinously improper for her to contract him directly.